Apologies and other hang ups
May 17, 2009 2 Comments
I guess I still have machismo hang ups …
I grew up believing that if I made a mistake or did something regrettable I would at least offer an apology for my actions.
This is part of being a man or at least that was my interpretation.
The person I apologize to, for example, may forgive my actions, he/she may not forgive my action at all, or not want to hear from me at all.
But At least, I have always offer my apology when it was sincere.
I recently contacted a couple men who did me wrong, perhaps just made mistakes along time ago. In fact I met with one previously over 15 years ago and offered him a hand shake. and he coward from me in a public place.
We were young then .
Recently I once again offered my hand, give them time and ask for no explanation of past actions. I just wanted hear “I’m sorry.”
Over the years I have seen some other men shovel issues under the rug, lie, box people out, play games of manipulation, and create baggage and bad situations that were not necessary if they just made an honest apology.
Once again I offered my an honest open dialog to a couple men … but a dialog-of- one is not a dialog at all.
Their is no forgiveness to an un expressed apology.
So I break lines of communication with them again, until they come to me.
I cannot thrust my expectations onto them.
Apology – An acknowledgment expressing regret or asking pardon for a fault or offense.. (Webster Dictionary)
More importantly its a communication.
I guess I still have communication hang ups.
or expectation hangups.