Change to and from

Change to and from :   The Paradoxical Theory of Change

What was tolerable then, may have no usefulness now. Growth is a collision of an every changing now . Growth is both erosion and assimilation. With relative autonomy , ( a slow developing set of behaviors in itself ) one may , as an agent of change , accelerate or stall the natural erosion and assimilation of:
people and things important ones life lilly-pad-blooming

  • values and meaning
  • experience
  • environment

As one reacts to pressures and novelties in contact with him and his internal health.

This is my summary of Arnold Beisser’s of Paradoxical Theory of Change.

Arnold Beisser wrote this as a preface for a Book by Fritz Perls , who developed a conceptual mix of humanistic psychology , experiential practice (or rather existentialism) and a graphical context into his so called “ Gestalt therapy ”. Fritz Perls did so with his wife , Laura and the help of numerous colleagues.

the purpose of Beisser’s “Paradoxical theory of Change ” was  introduce tthe humanistic psychology work by another.
However , there are important and brilliant observations in its rhetoric.

Change is seldom what a person thinks wants change  — at least initially and often do to desperation or boredom. change is a slow process.

that change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not. Change does not take place through a coercive attempt by the individual or by another person to change him, but it does take place if one takes the time and effort to be what he is — to be fully invested in his current positions.

Beisser is actually describing a specific nature of change, with autonomy and agents in mind , more than postulating a science theory.

The Nature of Change may apply to integrated group than just a single person. and the Nature of change may describe a community , a social group or social movement.
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But it is proposed that the same principles are relevant to social change, that the individual change process is but a microcosm of the social change process. Disparate, unintegrated, warring elements present a major threat to society, just as they do to the individual.

The Nature of Change can be compared in study by comparing what “is” to what it “is not ” , as they meet and mobilize .

First, there is an awareness within the system that an alienated fragment exists; next that fragment is accepted as a legitimate outgrowth of a functional need that is then explicitly and deliberately mobilized and given power to operate as an explicit force. This, in turn. leads to communication with other subsystems and facilitates an integrated, harmonious development of the whole system.

the construct or object or gestalt: “is” and “is not“.
Contact” is a graphical boundary of definition between what something is and what something is not — this is a fundamental point of gestalt therapy, where focus lies at the interplay of the two — the awareness of difference and similarity, cooperation , conflict, withdraw and assimilation.

A somewhat abstract social example:

How do we describe the feminist movement of the last 100 years ?
We’d define “what is feminism and “what is not feminism”
furthermore, we would need to create context for both.
“What happened when and where: ” What is Feminism ” met or meets “What is Not Feminism
As far as the changes is Feminism , Beisser would have us expect the pressures and agents of change, erosion and withdraws along novelties.
the social collision of what is and what is not Feminism.

The personal example :

A person may describe himself as
What I am ” meeting “What I am not
The observation of change of “I “and “I am not” is the erosion, the letting go of old tenants and the assimilation of new tenants. Beissers point in his essay, that person must come to realize all facets of this if he is to change “I” and “I am not ” in a healthy manner. the person must become aware of differences, past hindrances or resolve past parts of what he is , in the contrast , interplay , coercion and cooperation of what he is not.
Beisser extends this advise beyond the single person , so that groups community and movements can change in a healthy manner.

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Paradoxical Arnold Beisser

Further more…

What happens at boundary of contact is more complex than a Boolean value of this or that. With that said, it is important to become aware of distinction of what two are compared.

Another important characteristic of perception is the tendency toward closure–that is, toward making meaning about a figure. Presented with a circle of unconnected dots, for example, the perceiver instinctively fills in the gaps mentally to create a complete, bounded image.

http://www.clevelandconsultinggroup.com/articles/paradox-theory-of-change.php

A description of the natural tendency of “far perception” to further relationships.

reification triangle image

Reification

What could be inferred is the desire to make connection between broken or non-wholes.
an autonomous body may seek beyond its boundary as much as take what it was minutes ago.

Today the ( growingly) controlled media outlets, especially the internet and pundits is full of standoffs and bullies, both in groups and as people.
Its almost like someone is teaching a foolish irrational ways of “change” or defense.
Whats at risk ? An integrated way of being , for single person , environment, and community.

The compartmentalization of old people, young people, rich people, poor people, black people, white people, academic people, service people, etc., each separated from the others by generational, geographical, or social gaps, is a threat to the survival of mankind. We must find ways of relating these compartmentalized fragments to one another as levels of a participating, integrated system of systems.

Arnold Beisser – Paradoxical Theory of Change
https://www.gestalt.org/arnie.htm

I wrote you a poem…

a one draft poem inspired by Beisser. I wrote this years ago:

All things are shaped by friction
Growth by by erosion,
the crash of objects against environment
water against rock, man against circumstance,
two crashing into one and other
I am no different,
except for the engine within that propels me
forward, fueled with past experience
with the gift of mind, sensation, and memory
and the awareness of the sparks
created between me,
and the who and the what
that I crash into.

titled by me “Self indulgence”. thanks Arnie.

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weeded mint for air ducts

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Garden Mint for HVAC

Growing mint on  on rich soil in the Mid Atlantic states – pretty easy. Too Easy.
Mint  or “Mentha” can overwhelm garden areas if not contained.
I have given a chore for extra mint.

Photo above is an air intake for forced air HVAC – (heating ventilation air condition )
Its not a bad idea to pay attention to these in a house. One really doesn’t need a dusty or moldy area for the air intake of the ventilation of the house, where the tenants breath the air.
The mint just gives a pleasant aroma to the air conditioning.

Growing Mint.

For the best growth in confined areas such as containers, topdress plants with a thin layer of compost or organic fertilizer every few months. Aboveground pots will need winter protection in cold climates.
In the garden, plant mint near cabbage and tomatoes.

https://www.almanac.com/plant/mint
Mint is can be grown in doors or out. Mint can be part of the supporting caste of a tomato garden, when not segregated.
Common usages , Brewing , cooking and aroma.

Ventilation

Houses need to breathe. They should draw in fresh air and exhaust stale air. In fact, some experts recommend that one half of a home’s air volume should be exchanged every hour.

https://www.hometips.com/how-it-works/ventilation-systems-house.html
older people and folks who live in “dangerous ” neighborhoods forget this.
One can really benefit from ventilated your home and clearing obstructions from vents and intakes.

Breathy healthy , indoors and out!

Policies of Work and Quality

I was looking in a notebook on my computer and reviewing some of my personal policies and principles of work.
Some have changed over the years. I have spent a lot of years in manufacturing and production, and I really beat my body (and mind) up when I was young. “Being a good worker” has always been important to me. That has never changed. But as I have aged I have learned to be more efficient in regard to staying healthy and happy.

Here is a rough list of policies I practice…. some policies from Zen and Permaculture Design writers that I have incorporated into my strategies and tactics of everday work:

Be practical

  • do what works… experience is useful.

Define Quality

for years at work I used a company motto

the standard of Quality is the conformance to Zero defects

Quality is conformance to the standards of production as written.
the standard of zero defects of conformance to the rule.

  • if I work in production this is a great principle. it defines what a quality job is in respect to the task at hand.
  • how close did I adhere to the defined job in detail to its parameters, written or drafted procedures and layout.
  • perfect conformation is top quality.

  • constant conformance to the written procedures of the task is the practice of quality.
  • can i do the job “better ” my way ? well that would break this principle and definition of quality. maybe i should suggest a change to the supervisor or company.
    Maybe this principle of Quality doesn’t apply at this firm.
    What is the firms principle of Quality

 

Wu wei

  • no action, effort or thinking beyond whats needed. (wu wei)

 

Bring the right attitude:

  • keep a “beginners mind“- Suzuki Shōsan.
  • Be confident, unassuming, mindful(observant) and playful (experimental).
  • Could this conflict the rigorous principle of quality ?well everyday is a new day to look at the mainframe of what is expected of me. their is always novelty , something unexpected will come along. the expert can use a” beginners mind” when a novel circumstance arise, whether its in the mainframe of his processes or not.

 

Be ergonomic and efficient.

  • understanding my body and my environment while at work.
  • always remember good posture and movement.
  • always use as little stresses on my body/mind as possible: See Wu Wei.
  • create good structures and workstations (e.g use a surface tall enough when working on it)
  • Use the correct tool the correct way. ( more on ergonomics)

 

Use everyday science

  • use my understandings of leverage, thermodynamics, rates, even saturation (I am pretty damn good and fast at mopping floors with only hot water :) ), gravity and other forces

 

K.I.S.S or Keep it Simple [,Stupid]

  • make small changes for the greater benefit.
  • it is much easier understand the changes (including costs and consequences) of a tweak,change or experiment when it is uncomplicated

 

Know the players of the playground

  • heh-heh. This one might seem to contradict the previous policy a bit, but it calls for a little balance. One thing I have learned is people, coworker’s that is, do bring their personalities to work with them. Know what a boss expects out me, and know what my coworkers want out of their day at work. Just like back in school, there are followers, there are there are the Kings and Queens. Work life is alot easier if one pays attention to this.
  • In Short: don’t step on toes, inadvertently; and acknowledge coworkers existence and place… usually as simple as a smile and ‘good-morning’.

 

“The problem is the solution”

  • Quote from Bill Mollison. Use difficulties to positive means

 

Be Ethical.

  • practice reciprocity, remain dignified and respect others.
  • practice my primary cares: Care of people, Care of Earth, my primary concern of mental wellness

 

the policy of responsibility of authority

  • “The role of beneficial authority is to return function and responsibility to a system or people.
    If successful no further authority is needed”. from Bill Mollison’s Permaculture.
  • in my words: encourage self-sustainability in others… environment and other people.(See me poem!)

 

I hope to get old gracefully,with less pain and fatigue, and with good productivity.
May you do the same.
this is an update of a previous post

subway flash


The Pawnbroker scene with Rod Steiger – in which he replies a survivor of the Nazi holocaust in the mid 1900s.
The Pawnbroker, living in New York, disconnected from his present social going-ons and disinterested in faith and man.
Later in the movie he is shocked into the social realities around him.
here flash backs of horrible experiences.

symptoms of trauma

  • angry outburst at inconvenient times, including when relax
  • Trouble remembering key features of traumatic event
  • Distorted feelings like guilt or blame
  • Flashbacks—reliving the trauma over and over, including physical symptoms like a racing heart or sweating
  • Bad dreams
  • Frightening thoughts
  • Loss of interest in enjoyable activities

PTSD – post traumatic stress disorder

“disorder” in standard practice of medicine is a diagnosis.
diagnosis of Post Traumatic Stress Disorder can ONLY be given by a professional.
this fact is true because the purpose of diagnosis is to specify treatment and management of disorder, (which are spotted tenants of a criteria layed out by medical standards )

with that aside ones own research into Anxiety and Trauma could be very beneficial for one lifes therapies.

taking on episodes

Our past experiences, ride shotgun with our present doings. a relaxed body, at any given moment and anxiety or “flashbacks” can rise to the front of our perception.
Freud speculated that this was the body defending its self.
This is as if to say, hey body you survived an event before, lets keep it as a guard.
What does this mean?
Sometimes its useful to just welcome the flash, the anxiety episode.
then catch before “it” before it starts up again by reminding self/body “IM SAFE”.

This is a helpful tool because it requires nothing, not even privacy.

1. start with a good sized inhale.
2. Exhale and count out “ 5..4..3..2..1..0″
Count whispering while exhaling
3. Inhale through the nose
4. Exhale “5..4..3..2..1..0″ Just as number 2.
5. continue to step 3 and 4 :
I slow down my counting with each exhale

5…4…3….2….1…0
5…..4…..3……2…..1……0 slower and slower each exhale.

6. I do this for about 3 to 5 minutes or so
7. (optional) inhale, then exhale and repeating the thought: “I’m Safe” . – helpful if anxious.

– taken from the full post: Breathing and Counting Exercise.

The greatest weapon against stress is our ability to choose one thought over another. –William James

seeking professional management & treatment

under the present healthcare system, if one is persistently bothered by trauma and anxiety system, the SECOND step is to talk with ones General Practitioner.
FIRST keep a list or a log of of events and episodes.
this is a habit one should always consider when a doctors visit is scheduled.
write down when, what you were doing, and how the event made you physically feel.
If you suspect post-trauma ask General practitioner for the next step,

There is nothing shameful about anxiety and trauma-symptoms. they are part of the bodys functioning, like eating, pooping and dreaming, vomiting.
but one doesnt want persistent anxiety and flashes to rule his life.

this link has examples of charts before visiting a doctor:https://echopen.wordpress.com/charts/
one can download them or just make their own on paper.

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Anger rather than Sad


from the Book of Life

Common tenants of Depression or Major Depressive Episodes

  • Persistent sad, anxious or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities, including sex
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling “slowed down”
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Low appetite and weight loss or overeating and weight gain
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment

Common tenants of Anxiety―Depression (disorder group GAD)PDF
thanks https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/depression/symptoms

What is Disorder?

  • Disorders such as Bipolar disorder, Personality Disorders. or Anxiety Disorders can only be “Diagnosed” by healthcare―professionals or psychologists.
  • One maybe diagnosed with 6 disorders or 1 disorder – this does not mean one is anymore “screwed up” than the other.
  • Disorder is categorized for the purposes of treatment & management between a client, therapist & healthcare―providers.
  • There are legal and professional standards that healthcare―providers in mental-physical health must abide by – that’s what the literature is about: DSM4 DSM5

Gestalt therapy perspective

  • Self awareness not why but:
  • how and when? do ” I feel angry and sad “.
  • Moral- am I judging myself for feeling angry? sad? or tired?
  • How and When do I judge myself.. others environment.
  • Ambivalence: do i feel “conflicting” sensations? ↓Examples:↓
  • thrilled but angry and anxious
  • sad but tuned_in
  • relaxed.. but tight in the legs or chest

contact―boundary memoirs

At a good time (when sad happy or angry etc.)
can I observe between “me” and “not―me” :

  • projection — eg. expressing feeling in drawing or painting ; blaming someone or somthing)
  • Deflection — avoiding both good or bad feeling for another time)
  • confluence — losing sense of self to the outside world, or defending in reaction
  • retroflection — turning ones desires for others (especially with anger) back and substituding ones self) i.e. self blame and self harm
  • Introjection — absorbents in the interactions between “me” and “not―me” without processing (metabolizing)
Anger is part of depression. Anger is part of all of us in daily life.
the good choices we make are in
how to manage are emotions, sensations and Affects so they are not regular intrusions or regularly destructive.
This Management.
This is Anger. This is Depression.

Value & Meaning building

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.

__Viktor Emil Frankl

 
 
What is  “Meaning” ?
To me:  A personal  or subjective  experience in definition. for something to  be “Meaningful”  it must hold Value and– in my relationship with this something or someone, concept, goal, object, human or life-fom, I must “esteem” it to be more value in comparison to other somethings in a context, landscape or gestalt.
 
 

Esteem

respect for or a high opinion of someone

Respect

 Admiration for someone or something that you believe has good ideas or qualities.

Value

the importance or worth of something for someone
how useful or important something is

dictionary.cambridge.org
 
 

Meaning.

  • meaningful… description of information, that is:
    • that is formed out of background of discord
    • that is relative: relative  to a topic, study, paradigm, “game” , time-space location, happening, or world- view.
    • that is defined  in language, symbols or gesture,
    • that is prioritized in importance – intellectually and emotionally.
  • meaninglessness:  information that is not meaningful and therefore  remains, or is relegated to the background.

—from  Agnostic Conditons : Pennsylvania Echoes

I have reworked a task/todo   sheet
Visible here:  Value Building Exercise Example Page .
to be a simple    exercise in thinking about Value  and then about Meaning.
the instructions are at the bottom of the page linked above.

Free as is now warranting  for Download:

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valuing-building-exercise-pdf  PDF

valuing-building-exercise-odt -Editable ODT

Click on the links or picture Above for downloads.

Have a meaningful Day!

 

Affect Calendar January 2017

January Calendar for keeping track of Ones daily Affect —
Affect and mood are a descriptions of common body/mind tenants such as:
physical energy, mental sharpness, fatigue, attitude , posturing and feeling … and they are often common with life events, sleep, exercise , and sunlight.

Simple charting tools like these can be useful for the dialogue with one’s doctor on the next visit — or for one’s own health awareness.

↡ PDF download here↡

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you may download this PDF mood chart for bipolar disorder if you wish, freely.
I made and its free. click the link below for PDF
(readable with Adobe Acrobat, Foxit reader, Open office etc.)

Other mood tracking and charting tools at
https://echopen.wordpress.com/charts/

Free Html Calendar maker at
http://freehtmlcalendar.com/