Value & Meaning building

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.

__Viktor Emil Frankl

 
 
What is  “Meaning” ?
To me:  A personal  or subjective  experience in definition. for something to  be “Meaningful”  it must hold Value and– in my relationship with this something or someone, concept, goal, object, human or life-fom, I must “esteem” it to be more value in comparison to other somethings in a context, landscape or gestalt.
 
 

Esteem

respect for or a high opinion of someone

Respect

 Admiration for someone or something that you believe has good ideas or qualities.

Value

the importance or worth of something for someone
how useful or important something is

dictionary.cambridge.org
 
 

Meaning.

  • meaningful… description of information, that is:
    • that is formed out of background of discord
    • that is relative: relative  to a topic, study, paradigm, “game” , time-space location, happening, or world- view.
    • that is defined  in language, symbols or gesture,
    • that is prioritized in importance – intellectually and emotionally.
  • meaninglessness:  information that is not meaningful and therefore  remains, or is relegated to the background.

—from  Agnostic Conditons : Pennsylvania Echoes

I have reworked a task/todo   sheet
Visible here:  Value Building Exercise Example Page .
to be a simple    exercise in thinking about Value  and then about Meaning.
the instructions are at the bottom of the page linked above.

Free as is now warranting  for Download:

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valuing-building-exercise-pdf  PDF

valuing-building-exercise-odt -Editable ODT

Click on the links or picture Above for downloads.

Have a meaningful Day!

 

Mantra with phonics

Something be mindful with.. whether college educated professional, Laymen Child or impaired:

Today we are bombarded with noises and data, seemingly at a increasing rate..
This can be disorienting for even adults.  Whispering or bellowing mantras has been a practice in various paradigms: Hindi, Buddhist, Yoga , Pacific- & African- practices..

The phonetic Alphabet is excellent choice to meditate to or to chant to.

    what can one discover when being mindful of these sounds?

  •  Do I feel or imagine something on any given letter or sound ?
  •  Do I feel apprehensive or embarrassed about listening to letters and sounds?
  •  Do I sense my awareness drifting away to day dream or something else

Written Language and Phonics is fundamental, to most, in our social consciousnesses and contexts—
from our first words to our parents. Something to be Mindful of.

props to: https://www.havefunteaching.com

additionally on this blog, Breathing and Counting.

Metabolizing ~ k.i.s.s.

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Keeping Me Healthy

The process involving a set of chemical reactions that modifies a molecule into another for storage, or for immediate use in another reaction or as a by product.
http://www.biology-online.org/dictionary/Metabolism

metabolism is used as a metaphor for psychological functioning. People grow through biting off an appropriate-sized piece (be this food or ideas or relationships), chewing it (considering), and discovering whether it is nourishing or toxic

http://www.gestalt.org/yontef.htm

As one discovers each moment that he experiences…
conscious gestalts(stimuli, senses far & close, emotional response  that together form temporal “phenomena”)  form out of the unconscious  background.
Assessing  these moments, is a matter of deciding what bits and pieces are “swallowed” (and nourishing) and what rejected
This happens at a metaphorical boundary between differences known as Contact“.  In this case Contact is between the subject -and- what-he-is-not,  at that moment.

Metabolism at contact boundary is holistic  body/mind/environment experiential adventure.

Keeping Me Healthy.

 

 

 

 

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Lacan

With much emphasis on “mirrors” in social media these days, I thought of Jacques Lacan.
Lacan did not write large volumes on his work in psychotherapy —
In fact :  he resisted writing.   Jacques Lacan’s focus was on real time dialogue.   It was his belief that the real meanings of a client psych, pertaining to therapy, revealed themselves in client-therapy dialogue.
A clients motives, intentions, and associations can be interpreted in the context of linguists chosen of that moment — interpreted by a trained- psychoanalyst.

Here is a good introduction to the linguistically and analytical concepts of
Jacques Lacan:

Ego and Phenomenology

a crucial one in Lacan’s eyes, is that the ego is an object rather than a subject. In other words, the ego, despite conscious senses to the contrary, is not a locus of autonomous agency, the seat of a free, true “I” determining its own fate.
http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/lacan/

Lacan’s “I” differs from much of the first person phenomenology  I rattle on about here because much of what is Written on Pennsylvania Echoes is about Zen and self therapy for Wellness and Day to day work.

Lacan created his “phenomenological other” or “phenomenological third” as a metaphor of an abstract observer in the client-annalist-session continuum (Gestalt)

  • Some therapist, including  Gestalt  allow or encourage the taping of a session.
    One can do this in there own self therapies, such as
  • talk,
  • real time journaling
  • or with alone with a Mirror –

In this regard, the viewer of the session later– fills the role of phenomenological third … but in a fresh new objective circumstance.
this type of “heuristics ” allows for further analysis of process and/or tenants
of the taped client-therapist session or self therapy session.

Ego and the Mirror

Lacan theorized that children develop a sense of self,
-that is academically constructed “Ego”–
by comparing this development to the outside world, as if looking into a mirror.
Experienced during the so called “Mirror stage” is a constant of depthless superficial reflections. This includes dreams sensations, and desires.

within this infant “Mirror stage” of dependency on parents –
the child experiences narcissistic (conquering), confident, curious and helpless tensions that bind an integrated sensation of a whole self or “me”.

My Thoughts on Lacan’s Mirror Metaphor

The fast pace of today’s technology filled world, overmarketing and growing violence can leave one feeling as if he is fragmented , fake , narcissistic….
or depend on to many things – or people. Some describe themselves as lost inside the reflection of a mirror or conforming to fit a vision of an outside world that doesn’t even seem real to them anymore.
I don’t think it needs to be this way for those who chose to find an integrated self/other and confident self/other sense self-autonomy.

questioning what do I have control of ; what ought I control; and what controls me… It really comes down to:

  • Deciding (decision making),
  • Esteem (ethics to prioritize compare decisions )
  • and Wholeness (Oneness in deciding , acting , and sensing )

Its to let go of the mirror, little by little, and experience the world more as a lens. This requires, at times a first, second and third point of view.

Be a lens and less a mirror
peace.!

Now I am Aware of – Fritz Perls in workshop

 

Today’s Gestalt Therapy, A humanistic approach to psychotherapy, evolved and matured out of the experimental workshops of cofounder’s Fritz Perls and Laura Perls. In session, the gestalt client’s aim is to “Get out of their heads”, or the computer thought process as Perls has stated many times. Its method is to experience the awareness continuum , that is happening right now — body into the sensory field. This method of experiencing awareness includes experiencing the awareness of how one avoids awareness and sensing in his world.

The exercise in the video (posted on youtube by Marin Tataru) demonstrates “becoming acquainted with the on-going process of awareness.” in another words, mostly talk about process in the video, for the purposes of explanation and instruction.
Give it a shot:
 

Now, I am aware of…

 

Daily Feeling Chart, Alternate Version

Happy   New Year!http://30daynephalist.files.wordpress.com/2008/10/stuart_smalley.jpg?w=88&h=88
I would like my first post of this year to be another feeling.. or emotion tracking  chart.  Your excited… so am I (photo, right).
I am glad  that the   Daily Emotion Chart  for Special Needs Children has been relatively well received, since I first posted it , years ago.  But I think  emotions charting or tracking can be useful for more than just children.  For adolescent  boys and girls and adults, managing mental disorder or just having trouble expressing their selves confidently, a emotion chart tool can be just as useful.  working on Emotional grammar It can never hurt anyone, of any a age.

The emotion tracking  chart  (the one tagged for children that I have posted previously)  could be used by anyone at any age, or expanded upon… but I had to give it name (for the search engines of the interwebs);  and it was based on a previous Daily-feeling-track,jpgexperience with a friend and her childs needs .   So I am   adding  another example of a chart for emotional vocabulary.

My theory is (and I certainly don’t think I’m alone in this thought) that one can learn to make most of his or her own personal management tools;  by customizing them for his/her own needs; or the needs of themselves with  peers, support,  communicating to their doctors etc.
The creativity and control  that comes with   personalizing and maintaining  one’s   own toolbox only serves to build confidence and command over health management, IMHO.
However this one I made is free to download in several formats.  Use them as is…. or  just make your own charts,

Alternate Daily Feeling Tracker Sheet:

For more Tracking charts please check out the “Charts” tab above.
Thanks!

Grief , the Empty Chair and Journaling

As I see it, the people in our lives, both present or past, become part of us. More, concretely… our experiences with others and the memories gathered, affect our Being or perhaps, become part of our Being. So what’s really going on when we grieving when we lose someone we care about?

I have been intrigued by the gestalt therapies “empty chair” or open chair, since I participated in the exercise. The technique, best learned with a trained Gestalt therapist as coach, allows one to explorer “parts” of one self . one can adapt empty chair to other methods of therapy such as therapeutic journaling.

Journaling-Empty-Chair ExampleHere is how I have done it   in the past:

  • First I need a pen and paper for journaling, (A tape or video recorder can be used, alternately).
  • I also need some sort of alarm clock or timer.
  • This exercise works best when I thinking of the person. For this example, I use my Grandmother who passed away over 5 years ago…
  • I set a timer for 5-10 minutes and write what I  want to say to  her, at this moment.  I write what I want to say and what I would have  liked her to have heard from me.
    If I’m stuck.. and I don’t know  what to write… then I write “I don’t know what to write”.  Keeping in the moment.
  • When the timer stops me at 5-10 minutes I stop and take a breath.
    then set the timer for five minutes..
    ….
  • I write again, but this time its different. I write what I would like to hear my grandmother say back to me.
  • again if I don’t know what to write.. pen to paper ” I don’t know what write” -(this is just to get me started writing if I’m stuck)
  •  After the timer stops… I am done.

You see, If my grandmother and  these people who I’ve  known have affected  my Being and are now part of me, then I must also give “them” a voice too. in this exercise. To grieve as a whole person, I am giving that part of me a voice, that might be otherwise silent ,or alienated and denied in  grieving.

journalingThis Empty chair journaling session can  end at this point.   If I want, I can continue this exercise further, writing:
Me giving -a -voice- to-what I-want-to say-my-grandmother and then what-I-would-have-like-to- have-heard-her-say-to-me. alternating sides of the correspondence  every 5 minutes or so. In the Gestalt jargon, I am creating a dialogue between to parts of me that maybe polarized. This polarization is common with grief.
I usually destroy my journaling after I am done… this act is some what of a cathartic ritual in its self (no attachments), But one could save it to review with a therapist or for themselves later if they wished.

Happy Holidays to you, your loved ones and the rest of you.