Value & Meaning building

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.

__Viktor Emil Frankl

What is  “Meaning” ?
To me:  A personal  or subjective  experience in definition. for something to  be “Meaningful”  it must hold Value and– in my relationship with this something or someone, concept, goal, object, human or life-fom, I must “esteem” it to be more value in comparison to other somethings in a context, landscape or gestalt.


respect for or a high opinion of someone


 Admiration for someone or something that you believe has good ideas or qualities.


the importance or worth of something for someone
how useful or important something is


  • meaningful… description of information, that is:
    • that is formed out of background of discord
    • that is relative: relative  to a topic, study, paradigm, “game” , time-space location, happening, or world- view.
    • that is defined  in language, symbols or gesture,
    • that is prioritized in importance – intellectually and emotionally.
  • meaninglessness:  information that is not meaningful and therefore  remains, or is relegated to the background.

—from  Agnostic Conditons : Pennsylvania Echoes

I have reworked a task/todo   sheet
Visible here:  Value Building Exercise Example Page .
to be a simple    exercise in thinking about Value  and then about Meaning.
the instructions are at the bottom of the page linked above.

Free as is now warranting  for Download:

valuing-building-exercise-pdf  PDF

valuing-building-exercise-odt -Editable ODT

Click on the links or picture Above for downloads.

Have a meaningful Day!



When A Fellow Blogger Passes Away

relationary buttonnsWhen a fellow blogger passes away, the feeling is different,  than when someone I know in my day to day life dies.   Internet friends are connected differently. We talk about things that we don’t ordinarily do… with blogs and with social networking.  And yet when they are gone, I realize that we never really new much about each other.
Despite not knowing blogger “Relationary” in his real day to day world, I read his uncanny  thoughts on Geometry, Physics, Sociology, religion and psychology, and he read my uncanny hacks about meditating, existentialism, and  mental wellness.  It would turn out, we manage similar health problems and struggles.

So when I received word, via the internet that” Relationary” passed away, I was shocked. .
I  do not even know the details surrounding his passing, and I realize how little I knew of his life.  Yet he was as unconventional as he was bright, his blog reflects a creative playfulness, a graphical vision, rational organization when blogging about his topics.

I thought I would honor him by pointing to some of my favorite blog posts by him:

Induction, Deduction and Eight States of Change

On this post, Relationary explores  the nature of grief in his own way, graphically working out the “states of change”  post- event.  He  further  postulated the fluctuation in mood and emotion after a death, that is the grieving cycle,  maybe more universal as to apply to any shocking event or crisis.
Even more, some people get stuck in feed back loops after big life changes, shocks or crisis.
I have wondered, after reading this  if  one could draw similarities with Post Trauma.

Religion: Reciprocitism: A New Command I Give You

If you hate yourself, you will hate others in the same way…..
And so reciprocity in its current form is a curse to all of humanity.

Relationary  gives his own take on the ethic of reciprocity  (otherwise know as the “Golden Rule“)  He and I have come to the same conclusion with different words.  He says reciprocity and love,  I say reciprocity and dignity.

Mental Order for a Change

(Note: the link may load slow on slow connections, lots of images. )  Relationary coins his own term psychism: a term he uses for discrimination and stigmatization against mentally ill,  mentally challenged or disabled, or “mentally different”.   We all have differences of opinions on labels we give ourselves and we are all grateful to have a relationary to encourage us to research further.

Buddhism: the Four reminders.

Relationary blogged about religion and he understood religions major theme of death. We cannot escape death it is part of life.  With good fun intended towards Buddhisms Four Noble Truths he posted his “the Four reminders”.

We will lose some friends during our  lives.  In  our  world tied together more and more electronically,  different types of friendships manifest, but death remains the same. We remember are friends and as for death, we do not dwell on it.

The Golden Rule and Dignity

From subjective lenses,  I ( the first person perspective of my day -to-day reality),  observe and interact with other people in my-world.

Other people are not me (or “I”) , but other people are like me…and with compassion and relatedness in experiential interaction … I assume that they are more than mere objects:
living-subjects immersed in their lives,   like I am in mine, overlapping existence.

With that in mind,
I think that I would treat other people, these subjects (as I am a subject of my-world)….
I would treat them as I would want to treat myself . Just the same I wish to be treated as more than a mere object, I would expect to be respected by others as they would respect and treat themselves.

I am to treat others as I would want to be  treated.
— A variant of the “golden rule” or “ethic of reciprocity

I esteem “myself “ to be more than an object and expect the treatment by others, in their subjective, as they would treat “themselves”.

To me, the “golden rule” is a core subjective principle, one that I would like to see as a social or cultural contract. I think that this definition of human dignity as a related core principle.

The golden rule is a principle of many objective and religious philosophies:

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.“ — Traditional

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.” – book of Mathew, Christianity

“No one of you is a believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” — traditional Islam

“Every person has dignity and worth, and, therefore, should command the respect of every other person.”—Humanist Manifesto I.”

“Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” — Leviticus, Judaism

from The Golden rule the pan-moral principle.

Whether stemming from quality of subjective experience or the objective morals of religion, the ethic of reciprocity and dignity are the cornerstone of civil ethics and respect of individuals in any society.

They esteem the individual, they esteem the society.