Value & Meaning building

Ultimately, man should not ask what the meaning of his life is, but rather he must recognize that it is he who is asked.

__Viktor Emil Frankl

 
 
What is  “Meaning” ?
To me:  A personal  or subjective  experience in definition. for something to  be “Meaningful”  it must hold Value and– in my relationship with this something or someone, concept, goal, object, human or life-fom, I must “esteem” it to be more value in comparison to other somethings in a context, landscape or gestalt.
 
 

Esteem

respect for or a high opinion of someone

Respect

 Admiration for someone or something that you believe has good ideas or qualities.

Value

the importance or worth of something for someone
how useful or important something is

dictionary.cambridge.org
 
 

Meaning.

  • meaningful… description of information, that is:
    • that is formed out of background of discord
    • that is relative: relative  to a topic, study, paradigm, “game” , time-space location, happening, or world- view.
    • that is defined  in language, symbols or gesture,
    • that is prioritized in importance – intellectually and emotionally.
  • meaninglessness:  information that is not meaningful and therefore  remains, or is relegated to the background.

—from  Agnostic Conditons : Pennsylvania Echoes

I have reworked a task/todo   sheet
Visible here:  Value Building Exercise Example Page .
to be a simple    exercise in thinking about Value  and then about Meaning.
the instructions are at the bottom of the page linked above.

Free as is now warranting  for Download:

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valuing-building-exercise-pdf  PDF

valuing-building-exercise-odt -Editable ODT

Click on the links or picture Above for downloads.

Have a meaningful Day!

 

A practical definition of self.. who-i-am (repost)

What I have observed over the last decade, without casting blame on the usual suspects… excessive media sources, peer pressure, technological uses with out concern for ethics… is the possibility of many  individuals feeling fragmented, polarized or ambivalent.  This trend will probably continue for a long time.  Some are looking for just a starting point to the address the question “Who am I?”
“Who I am” is a slowly evolving and rigorously  tested concept for me. This is the development of the “healthy self concept” which I think is central to my  health and wellness management over the years.

The following is a repost from  April of 2011:

“In the widest sense possible, mans Self: is the sum total of all he can call his,
not only  body and psychic powers, but  his clothes and his house, his wife and children, his ancestors and his friends,his reputations and works, his lands and his horses,  and yacht and bank account. All these things give him the same emotions.

William James psychologist, later pragmatist  (principles of psychology).
In James definition any  physical and psychic interaction one can claim   is  part ones  self.

I would narrow my definition of  “self”  to:
a constructed organization or  gestalt of   mind/ body, that may include an integration of:

  • Interests – likes, dislikes, concerns
  • Values – principles,  ideas  held as important and meaningful
  • Beliefs – that which I hold true
  • Sex,   Gender, and orientation
  • Strengths and limitations (real and perceived)
  • Memories
  • basic needs , capacities and drives.
  • Biology:- from hormones to Nervous system to Dna

…that is  both  stable and vital in influencing the processes  of how I live and
is permeable and subject to slow change of growth and withdraw, as I live.

Why bother to define an object-like “Self”?…
I have  heard fellow newcomers to mental health management, describe themselves as if their personalities were pulled by strong  up mood to down mood; Feeling they were different one day to the next, or feeling fragmented….
Wondering if they can find an answer to the important  question: “Who Am I?”
My answer would be “I  start by stating   a few of values, interests, strengths, needs”
these traits tend to be more stable for many people than mood or situation.

Defining ” my- self”  is a pragmatic  solution, because  it gives me a stable answer to question “who am I?”  in understanding my expressions and interactions .
Loosely,   “Self” is  a core or center of being, a way to describe to say “Who I am” with   an important sense of control in sometimes fast paced changing world. My self is Me.

Zen “True Self” and Being

In Zen,   the “every day Self” or “True self’“, is defined as happening in present moment. It is  “Who one is” in the present moment. In Zen the self is also doing. For example  If  I am riding a bike, My  True Self is “I am riding”.
Although , I  believe a persons  “Being” is best described  as:  “doing” in the present moment or experience”,  It is impractical not to differentiate self  from  doing or Being, at times,  as situations and actions change to rapidly, day to day… moment to moment.
It is important to be able to distinguish  self from other (organism from environment) in “Being” as it is to realize the connection. Being is always changing. Action and experience are always changing. “Me” or my self,  always changing also  but it is more the far more stable components of Being than former.

As I  continue explore, defined and refine  myself  I gain with

  • ability to choose “what is me” and “what is not me”
  • greater capacity of reason, emotion  and relativeness
  • greater  autonomy in decisions I make
  • repeated testing in reality of  core components of me
  • greater confidence in “what is me”, “who I am”

What I describe as “me” or my self directly influences  my real time processes of such thinking, feeling, acting  and is affected (and ultimately tested) by these processes.
My self … or “What is me” is  just one integral part  of ” I am being“, but a relatively stable descriptions in comparison to flux and range interactions and expression.

In practical terms, “What is me” or “myself” differs from “what is mine” in that the self has more  importance in “how I am being” and therefore is more meaningful in Being or living.

In conclusion  the self or  “What is me”  is different than “What I possess“. Understanding how  “What I s me”  influences  “How I am being” in the present centered moment,  may give a better sense of wholeness and stability in Being and an answer to “Who I am”.

A practical definition of self

“In the widest sense possible, mans Self: is the sum total of all he can call his,
not only  body and psychic powers, but  his clothes and his house, his wife and children, his ancestors and his friends,his reputations and works, his lands and his horses,  and yacht and bank account. All these things give him the same emotions.

William James psychologist, later pragmatist  (principles of psychology).
In James definition any  physical and psychic interaction one can claim   is  part ones  self.

I would narrow my definition of  “self”  to:
a constructed organization or  gestalt of   mind/ body, that may include an integration of:

  • Interests – likes, dislikes, concerns
  • Values – principles,  ideas  held as important and meaningful
  • Beliefs – that which I hold true
  • Sex,   Gender, and orientation
  • Strengths and limitations (real and perceived)
  • Memories
  • basic needs , capacities and drives.
  • Biology:- from hormones to Nervous system to Dna

…that is  both  stable and vital in influencing the processes  of how I live and
is permeable and subject to slow change of growth and withdraw, as I live.

Why bother to define an object-like “Self”?…
I have  heard fellow newcomers to mental health management, describe themselves as if their personalities were pulled by strong  up mood to down mood; Feeling they were different one day to the next, or feeling fragmented….
Wondering if they can find an answer to the important  question: “Who Am I?”
My answer would be “I  start by stating   a few of values, interests, strengths, needs”
these traits tend to be more stable for many people than mood or situation.

Defining ” my- self”  is a pragmatic  solution, because  it gives me a stable answer to question “who am I?”  in understanding my expressions and interactions .
Loosely,   “Self” is  a core or center of being, a way to describe to say “Who I am” with   an important sense of control in sometimes fast paced changing world. My self is Me.

Zen “True Self” and Being

In Zen,   the “every day Self” or “True self’“, is defined as happening in present moment. It is  “Who one is” in the present moment. In Zen the self is also doing. For example  If  I am riding a bike, My  True Self is “I am riding”.
Although , I  believe a persons  “Being” is best described  as:  “doing” in the present moment or experience”,  It is impractical not to differentiate self  from  doing or Being, at times,  as situations and actions change to rapidly, day to day… moment to moment.
It is important to be able to distinguish  self from other (organism from environment) in “Being” as it is to realize the connection. Being is always changing. Action and experience are always changing. “Me” or my self,  always changing also  but it is more the far more stable components of Being than former.
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The Golden Rule and Dignity

From subjective lenses,  I ( the first person perspective of my day -to-day reality),  observe and interact with other people in my-world.

Other people are not me (or “I”) , but other people are like me…and with compassion and relatedness in experiential interaction … I assume that they are more than mere objects:
living-subjects immersed in their lives,   like I am in mine, overlapping existence.

With that in mind,
I think that I would treat other people, these subjects (as I am a subject of my-world)….
I would treat them as I would want to treat myself . Just the same I wish to be treated as more than a mere object, I would expect to be respected by others as they would respect and treat themselves.

Therefore,:
I am to treat others as I would want to be  treated.
— A variant of the “golden rule” or “ethic of reciprocity

I esteem “myself “ to be more than an object and expect the treatment by others, in their subjective, as they would treat “themselves”.
Dignity.

To me, the “golden rule” is a core subjective principle, one that I would like to see as a social or cultural contract. I think that this definition of human dignity as a related core principle.

The golden rule is a principle of many objective and religious philosophies:

“Do unto others as you would have them do unto you.“ — Traditional

“Therefore all things whatsoever ye would that men should do to you, do ye even so to them.” – book of Mathew, Christianity

“No one of you is a believer until he loves for his brother what he loves for himself.” — traditional Islam

“Every person has dignity and worth, and, therefore, should command the respect of every other person.”—Humanist Manifesto I.”

“Thou shalt love thy neighbor as thyself.” — Leviticus, Judaism
….

from The Golden rule the pan-moral principle.

Whether stemming from quality of subjective experience or the objective morals of religion, the ethic of reciprocity and dignity are the cornerstone of civil ethics and respect of individuals in any society.

They esteem the individual, they esteem the society.

Some Definitons for Mental Wellness: Mindfulness and Delvopment

Just in time for the New Year. I thought I would share some of the ‘emotional grammar terms and their  respective definitions as I came across them in reading, recently:
These pertain to life long development, are in the opinion of various writers and by no means is this list of definitions exhaustive.
Just some definitions to be mindful of in the  Up coming New Year for me:

Dignity -a sense of self value and worth and the expectation of respect and ethical treatment from others.

Self – Confidence – A sense of control and mastery of ones:
body/mind/behavior, in and interacting with ones ‘world’. A sense that one more likely to succeed than not, while undertaking tasks.

Intentionality – the wish, will and capacity to have impact, and to act upon that impact with perseverance.
Related to sense of competence and (perhaps developing sense of purpose and meaning.)

Self control – the ability to modulate and control ones actions in appropriate way [that meets situation]. related to developing social conduct and (perhaps developing self regulation.)
A sense of inner control.

Relatedness – the ability to engage others, based on being understood by; and understanding of, others. Developing sense of empathy and expressing emotion.

Assertiveness – stating concerns, values and feelings without anger, anxiety or passivity.

Mental Metabolism (gestalt theory thinking) – the developing ability to discover, consider , test, and compare: new ideas, actions, values, relationships in small ‘bites’, and to judge if they be rejected or assimilated.

Curiosity – the sense that finding out about objects, subjects, how things works: is positive and leads to pleasure.

Capacity to Communicate: the wish and ability to communicate: ideas; concepts to others.
related to a sense of “trusting”.

Cooperativeness – the development of ability to balance ones own needs with other’s needs in a group.

I’ll be thinking of these terms  . plus I added a couple extra definitions of ole’ terms  I often use at this blog:

Gestalt -.A whole, form, or configuration. …[ Simkin 1973] … an integration of members of a whole , as contrasted with a Sum total of parts.

Existential – pertaining to a subjects, (eg. person, group, organism, etc.) own existence (eg. participation in life, being, etc.) . some also include pertaining to the purpose or meaning of a subjects existence.

Experiential –  pertaining to a subjects copacity, ability and mindfulness of learning by first hand experience.

As I look at the terms,  in particular the last couple here, I realise I never attempt to be a “intellectual” in using them. Rather I always wish to be  a clear communicator…
…and better communicator.

Have a happy New Years.

my list of valuing

As I mentioned in the previous the previous post ( A new Social attitude) I am making a list  values and ways I can better contribute overall:

My list

1. Professional Loyalties –  I am committed to the professional company I work for. The Family owned production business, where I work,  hired me at a time no one else would. I return will continue to do what I can to help the business in the tough economic period.

2. Community and service-I have been absent lately for the volunteer service I am part of. I will be more return and be more committed to my volunteering.

3. My Family– they have been loyal to me during the rough times, I remain loyal to them.

4. Me and  my mental wellness roleI will be pursuing an education in mental health or services, to eventually work in a related field. Mental Wellness and the social difficulties of  Mental Wellness Managers are extremely important topics to me.

5. my influence.- I hope to share simple tools (like the ones on the “charts”  and “Breathing “pages and provoke people seek out empowerment in their wellness and personal philosophies… in my personal life and on the blog.

A new social attitude

Fear and Greed
Fear and Greed
Conditioning to succeed
It’s all happening down on Wall Street
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Taught our children
to ignore life’s simplicity
confusing ‘desire’ with meeting needs
conditioning to succeed
conditioning to compete
Its all happening down Wall Street
It’s all happening as we speak
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Fear and Greed
until we Bleed
I’ll teach my children to succeed
far away from Wall Street
with the earth beneath our feet.

Wall Street Doo Dah” , the poem I wrote a while back is not to blame anyone for the social ills of America.  Its about my dissatisfaction with our mainstream values.

I believe that we Americans, as a whole, have  desired for   wealth in our personal life and have desired  for financial status… both way too much..We have feared anything that would take away from those desires. Fear and Greed.

We have also believed myth that the politicians, alone will solve all our problems. And we have believed that the economists will use their math to keep our wealth protected.
This Attitude of Fear and greed has caught up with us, the belief that the “other guy” will take care of our problems has caught up with us.

Judging by the exciting and warm greeting of our new president, Barrack  Obama’s, inauguration many people are looking for a new attitude and a new set of values.


(Peter, Paul, and Mary preforming Bob Dyan’s
The Times they are a Changing”)

I was watching this youtube video posted by cskwan and remembering Obamas call for everyone to pull together and pitch in to work through are social and economic difficulties.

I am writing down a short list, thinking about what I do well and what I can do to contribute. I proudly pay taxes of course, but I am making a list to see what more I can do how I can contribute more physically and socially and cast away the old attitude and values of “Fear and Greed”…