Anger rather than Sad


from the Book of Life

Common tenants of Depression or Major Depressive Episodes

  • Persistent sad, anxious or “empty” mood
  • Feelings of hopelessness, pessimism
  • Feelings of guilt, worthlessness, helplessness
  • Loss of interest or pleasure in hobbies and activities, including sex
  • Decreased energy, fatigue, feeling “slowed down”
  • Difficulty concentrating, remembering, making decisions
  • Insomnia, early-morning awakening, or oversleeping
  • Low appetite and weight loss or overeating and weight gain
  • Thoughts of death or suicide, suicide attempts
  • Restlessness, irritability
  • Persistent physical symptoms that do not respond to treatment

Common tenants of Anxiety―Depression (disorder group GAD)PDF
thanks https://www.adaa.org/understanding-anxiety/depression/symptoms

What is Disorder?

  • Disorders such as Bipolar disorder, Personality Disorders. or Anxiety Disorders can only be “Diagnosed” by healthcare―professionals or psychologists.
  • One maybe diagnosed with 6 disorders or 1 disorder – this does not mean one is anymore “screwed up” than the other.
  • Disorder is categorized for the purposes of treatment & management between a client, therapist & healthcare―providers.
  • There are legal and professional standards that healthcare―providers in mental-physical health must abide by – that’s what the literature is about: DSM4 DSM5

Gestalt therapy perspective

  • Self awareness not why but:
  • how and when? do ” I feel angry and sad “.
  • Moral- am I judging myself for feeling angry? sad? or tired?
  • How and When do I judge myself.. others environment.
  • Ambivalence: do i feel “conflicting” sensations? ↓Examples:↓
  • thrilled but angry and anxious
  • sad but tuned_in
  • relaxed.. but tight in the legs or chest

contact―boundary memoirs

At a good time (when sad happy or angry etc.)
can I observe between “me” and “not―me” :

  • projection — eg. expressing feeling in drawing or painting ; blaming someone or somthing)
  • Deflection — avoiding both good or bad feeling for another time)
  • confluence — losing sense of self to the outside world, or defending in reaction
  • retroflection — turning ones desires for others (especially with anger) back and substituding ones self) i.e. self blame and self harm
  • Introjection — absorbents in the interactions between “me” and “not―me” without processing (metabolizing)
Anger is part of depression. Anger is part of all of us in daily life.
the good choices we make are in
how to manage are emotions, sensations and Affects so they are not regular intrusions or regularly destructive.
This Management.
This is Anger. This is Depression.
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Quick coached breathing exercise.

One is– What he metabolizes.
and this includes breath.
the breathing exercise video posted on youtube BreathoftheLove simple with
change-ups.

Noting that our thinking will often “forget” new challenging therapies like simple breathing ;
and practicing with repetition breathing exercises regularly, over the course of the day:
One might find breathing exercises beneficial.

I don’t think i need to pitch this. just do it, do it often. see what you think and feel.

A Review of the Human Respiratory System.

https://echopen.files.wordpress.com/2017/05/respiratory-system-complete-_.png?w=440&h=469

Respiratory System by LadyofHats

Mantra with phonics

Something be mindful with.. whether college educated professional, Laymen Child or impaired:

Today we are bombarded with noises and data, seemingly at a increasing rate..
This can be disorienting for even adults.  Whispering or bellowing mantras has been a practice in various paradigms: Hindi, Buddhist, Yoga , Pacific- & African- practices..

The phonetic Alphabet is excellent choice to meditate to or to chant to.

    what can one discover when being mindful of these sounds?

  •  Do I feel or imagine something on any given letter or sound ?
  •  Do I feel apprehensive or embarrassed about listening to letters and sounds?
  •  Do I sense my awareness drifting away to day dream or something else

Written Language and Phonics is fundamental, to most, in our social consciousnesses and contexts—
from our first words to our parents. Something to be Mindful of.

props to: https://www.havefunteaching.com

additionally on this blog, Breathing and Counting.

Journey of life – education


Nice rendition of a popular lecture of Alan Watts.
journey of purpose TJOP – on youtube.
Video address the relative standards of how one or a group is trained in the present post academic job and career market.
When does one, or a family feel the sense of achievement, satisfaction and purpose in the context of finances, when goals and quotas are more tangible then in the moment rewards.
Another Edit of Alan Watts Lecture- can be found here:

* Alan Watts talks the human game / Universe At Play *

Making Plans for the for future is only Useful to those who are capable of living in the moment,”
-Alan Watts.


K’naan – ABC’s — Album Troubadour 2007
(amaz: http://tinyurl.com/hfq8uep)

Various Quotes on Education:

I have never let my schooling interfere with my education.
― Mark Twain

Whatever the cost of our libraries, the price is cheap compared to that of an ignorant nation.
― Walter Cronkite

Children must be taught how to think, not what to think.”
― Margaret Mead

Educating the mind without educating the heart is no education at all.”
― Aristotle

Education without values, as useful as it is, seems rather to make man a more clever devil.
― C.S. Lewis

Broken Continuum


On Obsession and the Rat Man Case – Jacques Lacan

Broken Continuum

From reading Perls and practising self therapy, I infer:
that the Ratman  is the underdog of a broken self  gestalt continuum [a natural top dog/ underdog integration]; the obsession on serving imaginary Hero or Authority ,is that sense authority has lost of his “whole-self”.
His severe lack of self esteem is projected or transposed, by ritual to esteeming an imaginary other.

As I interpret and infer, this routine, if intruding to his life: is an impeding disturbance at contact boundary
What the Ratman is projecting is of a wounded and buried Esteem, that serves in place of  Top dog or Authority over his day to day polarity and choices. this ritual may manifest its self at times as obsessive.

Apex and Servant

An alarming personal Dynamic is being promoted around the world, beyond the world of consensual relationships..
I call it  – Aphex and servant-, and it can shatter a person wholeness…
For those who find themselves in this predicament, I encourage them abandon their projection, and seek wholeness..
re-establish a healthy esteem to experience healthy daily top-dog /underdog polarities in their Being.

Lacan

With much emphasis on “mirrors” in social media these days, I thought of Jacques Lacan.
Lacan did not write large volumes on his work in psychotherapy —
In fact :  he resisted writing.   Jacques Lacan’s focus was on real time dialogue.   It was his belief that the real meanings of a client psych, pertaining to therapy, revealed themselves in client-therapy dialogue.
A clients motives, intentions, and associations can be interpreted in the context of linguists chosen of that moment — interpreted by a trained- psychoanalyst.

Here is a good introduction to the linguistically and analytical concepts of
Jacques Lacan:

Ego and Phenomenology

a crucial one in Lacan’s eyes, is that the ego is an object rather than a subject. In other words, the ego, despite conscious senses to the contrary, is not a locus of autonomous agency, the seat of a free, true “I” determining its own fate.
http://plato.stanford.edu/entries/lacan/

Lacan’s “I” differs from much of the first person phenomenology  I rattle on about here because much of what is Written on Pennsylvania Echoes is about Zen and self therapy for Wellness and Day to day work.

Lacan created his “phenomenological other” or “phenomenological third” as a metaphor of an abstract observer in the client-annalist-session continuum (Gestalt)

  • Some therapist, including  Gestalt  allow or encourage the taping of a session.
    One can do this in there own self therapies, such as
  • talk,
  • real time journaling
  • or with alone with a Mirror –

In this regard, the viewer of the session later– fills the role of phenomenological third … but in a fresh new objective circumstance.
this type of “heuristics ” allows for further analysis of process and/or tenants
of the taped client-therapist session or self therapy session.

Ego and the Mirror

Lacan theorized that children develop a sense of self,
-that is academically constructed “Ego”–
by comparing this development to the outside world, as if looking into a mirror.
Experienced during the so called “Mirror stage” is a constant of depthless superficial reflections. This includes dreams sensations, and desires.

within this infant “Mirror stage” of dependency on parents –
the child experiences narcissistic (conquering), confident, curious and helpless tensions that bind an integrated sensation of a whole self or “me”.

My Thoughts on Lacan’s Mirror Metaphor

The fast pace of today’s technology filled world, overmarketing and growing violence can leave one feeling as if he is fragmented , fake , narcissistic….
or depend on to many things – or people. Some describe themselves as lost inside the reflection of a mirror or conforming to fit a vision of an outside world that doesn’t even seem real to them anymore.
I don’t think it needs to be this way for those who chose to find an integrated self/other and confident self/other sense self-autonomy.

questioning what do I have control of ; what ought I control; and what controls me… It really comes down to:

  • Deciding (decision making),
  • Esteem (ethics to prioritize compare decisions )
  • and Wholeness (Oneness in deciding , acting , and sensing )

Its to let go of the mirror, little by little, and experience the world more as a lens. This requires, at times a first, second and third point of view.

Be a lens and less a mirror
peace.!

Beisser: Flying Without Wings

Arnold Biesser is the Author “Paradoxical Theory of change”
one of my favourite essays.

Briefly stated, it is this: that change occurs when one becomes what he is, not when he tries to become what he is not

http://www.gestalt.org/arnie.htm

Paradoxical Theory of Change on PDF

Earlier post on Paradoxical Theory of change.